Olatunji Fagbore lost his father, Victor, suddenly — before he'd said everything he meant to say. Dad in the Mirror is what he did with what was left unsaid, so that other fathers, sons and daughters don't have to find out the same way he did.
Like most fathers and sons, Olatunji and Victor talked — about work, about plans, about nothing in particular. The things that actually mattered stayed unsaid, the way they usually do, because there's always going to be a later, more obvious moment to say them. Then Victor was gone, suddenly, and later stopped being a guarantee.
Dad in the Mirror is what came after — not a eulogy, and not a how-to guide, but an honest reckoning with what it means to become the man your father was, mistakes and all, and what it costs to let the important things go unsaid for one day too long.
Olatunji writes as a son who lost that window — and as someone who's since had to reckon with what he'd want said to him, by his own children, before it's too late to hear it.
Whether your father is a phone call away or already gone, this book was written by someone who's stood on both sides of that particular kind of quiet.
A central part of the book deals directly with sudden loss, and the specific regret of words that never got said in time — not as theory, but as something Olatunji actually lived through.
Outside of writing, Olatunji is a product leader and the founder of Ustackschool, with a decade spent turning ambiguity into shipped work across three continents. The same belief runs through everything he builds — that strong people, and strong families, are built on honest exposure, real guidance, and values passed on while there's still time to pass them on.
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